I wouldn’t have a family without adoption.
My wife and I have three children, and all three are part of our family through adoption. My wife and I began the adoption process after ten years of infertility. We wanted nothing more than our our child. Now, we have three! This is not how we intended to build our family, but this is how it came together. We are all the better for it. We don’t think of them as our adopted children. They are simply our children. The subject of adoption comes up only when we share our story and the blessing of adoption.
Adoption is a blessing. How so?
- You can have a family regardless of fertility issues.
- You can provide a loving home to children that may not have had one otherwise.
- You give birth parents an alternative to abortion.
- You give the birth parent’s family peace of mind, that the child is being taken care of.
- In our case, with multiple adoptions, you experience the richness of children from different backgrounds coming together as one.
- You inspire your own children to consider adoption as part of their family plan, which keeps the cycle of goodness going. My oldest sister is part of our family through adoption. My parents began the cycle.
Don’t be mistaken, adoption isn’t easy.
- Adopting can be costly and stressful.
- You’re dealing with uncertainties with the process, family health history, etc.
- Your child, even though adopted into your loving home, will always struggle, to some degree, with why the birth family didn’t want him or her.
- You need to decide how to handle this with your child. We were upfront about it as soon as possible, celebrating the joy of adoption with our children and speaking well of each one’s tummy mommy.
Thank God for the gift of adoption!
Romans 8:15, “For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!”