We need to go to work, exercise, take care of our family.

Life is about responsibilities. We must take care of ourselves and others. It isn’t always easy.

What if we don’t feel like it today?

We don’t feel like lifting weights. We don’t feel like taking our dog for our walk or cooking supper. But, we need to.

How do we get ourselves to do it? Some not-ideal options:

• Don’t do it at all, it just creates more problems and work for the next day
• Guilt ourselves into doing it, this just brings more misery
• Wait till the last minute, this only makes it harder to complete

This is the best thing to do:

• Remember why it’s important – it’s important for me to exercise today because…
• See the benefits of the activity – I don’t feel like it, but I when I do it, this positive result will occur…
• Commit to just a few minutes of the activity – if it’s exercise instead of saying, “I must run for 30 minutes today,” say instead, “I will run for 10 minutes today.” The commitment is less intimidating. Chances are, you will wind up running the 30 minutes anyway. It’s all about taking the first step.

What do you have to do today?

1. Remember why you need to do this

2. See how it adds to benefit to your life

3. Take the first step and go from there

Colossians 3:23, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.”

I didn’t feel like it today.

I recently had a rough weekend. Not only that, I barely slept a wink one night. All I wanted to do today was get home from work and do nothing.

• I didn’t feel like running
• I didn’t feel like writing this essay
• I didn’t feel like eating with my family

So, guess what I did?

• I went running
• I wrote this essay
• I ate with my family

Why did I do these things, even though I didn’t feel like it?

• My family, exercise, and writing are priorities of my life
• Success is often just showing up, even when it’s not easy
• I knew I would feel worse for not doing these things
• Good habits lead to good habits
• I knew once I started exercising, writing, etc., I would “feel” like it

What do you need to do today, even if you don’t feel like it? Do it anyway. You won’t regret it!

Galatians 6:9, “ And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”

I know how to work

I have been working most of my life. When I do work, I give it my all. What I struggle with is not working.

It’s easier for me to work than rest

After work, I go home and work on the house. On a day off, after resting for an hour or two, I need something to do. While on vacation it takes several days just to unwind. Is it just me, or are you like this, too?

8 Reasons we don’t Rest

• Something always needs to be done
• We feel useless or guilty when we aren’t productive
• Our identity/sense of self-worth is wrongly connected to productivity
• Our minds are never silent or still
• The adrenaline factory is running 24/7
• Busyness distracts from the problems of life, so rest intimidates us
• Maybe we don’t realize the importance of rest
• Maybe we don’t know how to rest

So, how do we rest?

I am still learning how to rest, but this is what I have observed:

• If your job drains you physically, rest by doing something mental.
• If your job drains you mentally, rest by doing something physical.

I find rest in exercise, writing, music, and being with my family. Whatever gives you rest, don’t feel guilty.

We need to rest. We aren’t robots!

Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

People love Halloween, but what does the Bible say about it?

My neighborhood is littered with ghosts, goblins, and ghouls. People love this holiday. Who doesn’t like a bucket of Tootsie Rolls!

Does the Bible talk about Halloween?

Not directly. The Bible was written long before the phrase, “Trick or Treat.” People celebrate Halloween, to some degree, because they’re fascinated with good vs. evil, death, and the afterlife.

The Bible does talks about a spirit realm

• Not ghosts, goblins, or haunted houses, but rather a spirit world with Satan and his demons, battling against God.
• Good battling against evil.
• The flesh battling against the spirit.
• Death itself is not the end, but the beginning of something eternal.

Halloween is more than costumes and candy

• It’s a reminder there’s more to life than what we see.
• It’s a reminder that death is real.
• It’s a reminder that good and evil exists.
• It’s a reminder that we’re more than flesh and bones, we’re spiritual.

The Bible teaches victory in the end

• Good wins over evil
• Life conquers death
• God defeats Satan and his demons
• In Jesus Christ, we are more than conquerors
• We’re to fear no evil, for His rod and staff comfort us, Psalm 23

As you “Trick or Treat” and eat all those skittles, think about the deeper elements that lie within.

Romans 8:37, “in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.”

My wife and I have been married 26 years, but I still date her.

That sounds super weird! Actually, we went on a date just last night. It was to a simple pizza place, but we had a wonderful time together. Dating my wife doesn’t mean:

• We’re deciding if we’re right for one another
• We’re playing the field and seeing other people

What does it mean?

It means we’re intentional about spending quality time together. We try to go on a date once a week, if possible.

• Sometimes we go see a movie
• Sometimes we just go for a scenic drive
• Usually, we go out to eat

We need this because:

• Life is super hectic
• We have three children living at home
• Both our jobs are stressful and demanding
• There are days we barely see one another

Going on these “dates”

• Helps us get away from the chaos for a moment
• Gives us time to talk about life
• Teaches our children what a healthy marriage looks like
• Allows my wife and I to still have fun together
• Keeps our marriage strong and vibrant, even after 26 years

Are you Married? Take your spouse out on a date. Make is a regular practice!

Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”

Smiling is the one of the easiest ways to drastically improve your life.

I learned this lesson from my dad. On his business card it read, “Smile, you’ll feel good.” To be honest, I don’t always smile. When I don’t smile:

• People can get the wrong impression of me
• I can look mad, even when I’m not
• I can come across as cold and distant, not warm and friendly

When I do smile, it changes everything. How?

• It makes me feel better
• It changes my attitude
• It helps me connect more with others
• I often get a smile in return, which helps the other person feel better
• It just makes the world a better place

We all know this, but if you’re like me, you don’t smile enough. Why?

• We don’t think about it
• We think we’re smiling, but we really aren’t, (think half-smile)
• We’re not intentional about it
• We’re too focused on ourselves, our phones, etc.
• We feel vulnerable when we take our guard down

Let’s make it a practice to smile more!

• Look in the mirror and see/feel what a true smile is
• Practice smiling
• Make it a goal to smile to 5 people today

It can change your day, attitude, relationships, etc.

“A smile is happiness you’ll find right under your nose.” Tom Wilson

Proverbs 15:13, “A happy heart makes the face cheerful.”

I ran 11 marathons from 2008-2017. Here are 11 lessons I learned, Part #2 of 2.

6. Help others along the way

In one of my marathons, someone trained with me and ran the marathon, too. He lost like 80lbs or so as a result! True success is not just crossing the finish line, but helping someone else cross it with you.

7. Don’t wait till you have time

There is never really time to train and run for a marathon. There is never really time to do anything in life extra. Make time for it. Do it now.

8. Enjoy the journey

Marathon training can be miserable. I had to remind myself that I chose to do this, that this is fun. Life gets miserable at times, too. Remind yourself to relax, smile, and enjoy it.

9. Take time to savor the success

Do you know what I always did after running a marathon? I planned the next one. I never stopped to enjoy the accomplishment. When you accomplish something, don’t just rush on to something else. Stop. Smell the roses and the sweetness of success.

10. Take care of yourself

Recovering from a marathon takes time. I had to slow down for a few days, eat good foods and drink lots of fluids. If I went right back to full speed ahead, it would lead to injuries. Make sure you recover after busy weeks, completing a tough task, etc. If you don’t, you will crash and burn.

11. Success spills over into all of life

Completing the marathons didn’t just improve my exercise and health. It has helped me in my job, tackling rough times, etc. How can your successes help you in other areas of your life?

Hebrews 12:1, “Let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.”

Exercise is not just about the physical benefits. It informs and inspires all facets of life.

I ran and completed eleven full marathons in the years 2008-2017. I hope to complete more, but whether I do or not, here are eleven life lessons I treasure.

1. Just show up.

How did I complete the marathons? Being consistent in my training. Most of life is just about showing up and being consistent.

2. Don’t let obstacles get in the way.

Some days I didn’t feel like running, or the weather was bad. I had to get up and do it anyway. Sometimes, you will not feel like going to school, work, etc. Do it anyway.

3. Small steps lead to big success.

I’d never ran 26.2 miles when I starting training for my first marathon. My longest run was probably three miles. Then my longest run became four miles, then five, etc. Success leads to more success. You cannot go somewhere you aren’t headed.

4. Some people will understand and support you.

My wife and family fully supported my running. Others did, too. “You are running a marathon. That’s amazing. Good for you. I wish I could do something like that.” When you start a business, write a book, or do something unique, some people will be your greatest cheerleaders.

5. Some people will not understand or support you.

“You are running a marathon? Why?” Someone actually asked me once, “Did you win? If you aren’t going to win, what’s the point?” Some people will not understand what you’re trying to do. They might joke about your goals and dreams. They might even discourage you from doing it. Do it anyway.

What life lessons have you learned from your endeavors?

6 more lessons to go! Part two, tomorrow!

2 Timothy 4:7, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”

You’re tired. Now what? Sometimes a nap or a good night’s rest doesn’t fix it. There’s more than one way to be weary. To recover, you need to identify which one(s) you are. Are you:

1. Physically Tired

• You’ve had a long day at work
• Your sick child kept you up all night
• You stayed up late or woke up earlier than normal
• You’re recovering from an illness

2. Mentally Tired

• You’re facing a lot of decisions
• You’re working long hours and your mind hasn’t had time to process everything
• A lot of change is taking place in your life
• You are filled with anxious thoughts

3. Emotionally Tired

• You’re helping someone go through a tough time
• You’re being mistreated by someone
• You have just lost a loved one
• You’ve been depressed

4. Spiritually Tired

• You don’t feel connected to God
• You’re tired from serving God
• You’re weary from the struggles and problems of life

What’s really difficult is when you’re more than one of these. There are times, as a pastor, I am all four at the same time. A simple good night’s rest will not recharge me back to 100%.

What can we do when we weary? Here are a few things that might help:

• Take a walk
• Journal your thoughts
• Take a mental break from what you are wresting with
• Listen to music that lifts your spirit
• Read a good book
• Count your blessings
• Go to a quiet place
• Get away from the news, television, social media, etc.
• Pray
• Exercise: Lift weights, go for a run or bike ride
• Spend time around someone that recharges you, not drains you

Remember this important truth: If you don’t take care of yourself, you will not be able to take care of anyone else.

Mark 6:31, “Jesus and his followers were in a very busy place. There were so many people that he and his followers did not even have time to eat. He said to them, “Come with me. We will go to a quiet place to be alone. There we will get some rest.”

I hate it when I yell at my kids. I hate to even admit I yell at my kids. This is what I have learned after losing it:

Yelling at my kids doesn’t make anything better.

• Never once, after raising my voice, has the situation gotten better, calmer, or more pleasant.
• Never once have my children thought, “Dads yelling. I better obey!” It just makes them more disobedient.
• Never once have my children felt more loved as a result of my yelling.
• Never once have my children respected me more after my verbal vomits.

Yelling at my children only makes things worse.

• I feel bad for doing it.
• My children get anxious and upset, which causes more stress and even more, you guessed it – yelling.
• I am setting a bad example for how to handle stress and emotions.
• It takes away the joy and peace of the household.

The best thing for me, when I get anxious and angry, is to walk away from the situation.

Not storming off in a rage, but rather excusing myself from the situation.

• When I walk away, it cuts the tension out of the air.
• It helps me get a better perspective.
• It helps my emotions idle down.
• It helps the emotions of my children idle down.

The same is true of any relationship; whether towards your children, spouse, or friend. Yelling doesn’t make things better, but worse.

I ask for forgiveness after I lose it. I tell my kids, “Sorry, dad messed up. Please forgive me.”

• I am teaching them the power of taking responsibility.
• I am teaching them the need to ask for forgiveness.
• I am teaching them that yelling is not ok.

“Children are gifts. They are not ours for the breaking. They are ours for the making.” Dan Pierce

Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”